Do you know that women love differently to men?
Have you heard of cases where women remain in abusive relationships? Often the testimony of the woman is, “he still loves me”, “how can you tell when he beats you up?”, “because we have sex together”. Here is seen the stark difference between men and women’s approach to love. The woman, contrary to the evidence, believes that as her man has sex with her he cares. The woman gives her body away as an act of love, whereas the man takes her body for careless self-gratification. “A man can have sex with someone he really doesn’t like, take pleasure from the experience and back coming back.”
Now there are many women who know, usually at the cost of their purity and considerable heartache, that men can have sex with no sense of love, care or compassion. The women have learned that they can use sex as a means for securing commitment and control. Meeting the man who meets her standard of attractiveness, she gets to know him, perhaps for a few weeks or maybe just days, before moving to the stage of giving her body so securing a commitment. Now that she has given up her body to him they can be seen to be, ‘in a relationship’. This arrangement comes with social expectations of degrees of loyalty, honesty, faithfulness and commitment.
To the man who, as we have seen, simply wants to satisfy his inward carnal desires this is a great deal. The woman has given her body away on the cheap and it has cost him little more than displays of affection, compliance and patience, a little generosity, and perhaps rent. There is no commitment, binding promise of faithfulness or any other critical aspect of selfless, kind and caring love. The woman has traded her body for affection, attention and control. She will be ditched like a used rag when the moment is right.
In the subconscious mind of the man the woman has unenviable status of ‘prostitute’. Are you still unconvinced? Let me remind you of the characteristics of authentic love: Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude; it does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all thing, endures all things. Love never ends. If you want to test the truth of my submission tell your boyfriend you won’t be having sex with him until the day you are married and see the genuineness of his love for you evaporate!
Woman do not give your body away in the hope that love might follow, history is littered with the carcasses of broken relationships, and abandoned children as evidence to the truth of these words. Co-habiting relationships repeatedly fail. Did you know that those who live together prior to getting married have a greater chance of divorce? If you have fallen out of love or drifted apart then I am afraid there was no love, the love you ‘felt’ was fabricated.
In the vanguard of a generation of broken relationships is the evolutionary claim that we are nothing but turbo charged apes. The cultural mandate feeds off these nonsenses and claims that sex can be used as a means of satisfying your felt needs. If that were true, if we were nothing but animals, then would rape victims suffer as they do? Rape is a devastating experience for both sexes but none more so than women. The effect is profound. The violation is so much more than physical, it is spiritual and it’s the spiritual that endures. Do not your experiences, the world around you and the countless victims bear witness to these truths? If you are having sex outside of marriage you are storing up troubles, pain and heartache – for loves sake, for your sake, please stop and save your body for your spouse.
Marriage is the safe place for sex to be enjoyed, why else do you suppose the homosexual lobby is so keen to have marriage redefined? They see, along with society, that the marriage covenant brings with it protection, provision and love that no other arrangement can. Marriage brings a man and woman together with their unique differences and unites them equally. With a lifelong promise the man and woman are bound together liberating the women to give her body to the man and expect nothing in return. Her interest is in seeing her husband satisfied because her need for love, protection, provision, respect and dignity has been satisfied in his sworn commitment to her. The spiritual bond, that happens whenever people have sex is welcome in marriage because it strengthens his commitment to provide and protect. These are the bonds of love that leaves monogamous marriage between a man and a woman as the safest and most viable fortress in which two people can be joined together as husband and wife until death as do part.
And that is the truth that will set you free.