Monthly Archives: July 2012


What a wonderful testament to how we are infinitely different to the animal kingdom.  Do you not wonder why there is no evidence of species to species transition? Why do animals breed from their own kind? Where are the transitional species? I need an explanation as to how you so faithfully trust the theory that this stadium was designed and built by turbo charged apes.



I agree with Mark Driscoll who says, “soft words make hard people but hard words make soft people”  It compliments another truism I heard, “I don’t want you to adore me because I tell you what you want to hear, I love you enough to tell you the truth even though you may hate me for it”.  Every day I have encounters with hard hearted people who have rejected the truth in exchange for a lie.  A man on the train, having read a great ‘intelligence test’ I gave him, told me that, “it’s too religious for me, I have my beliefs”. Oh how I would love the opportunity to tell that man he does not have his beliefs, but he believes what he has been told.  He has been taught that we are able to believe whatever we choose, that all beliefs are relative and it’s wrong to impose your beliefs on anyone.  Really? Do you believe that? Is that true? Do you think I should believe that?  If you want to discover the cause for a crime look for a motive.  Our education system has adopted a lie and the cultural mandate is broadcasting that lie.  If you want to see the motive for those lies travel with me through the Welsh Capital City Cardiff each day and I’ll show you.  I want to be friends, I really wouldn’t mind if you respected my wisdom and character but the fate of your soul is more important to me than your friendship.

Do you know that women love differently to men?

Have you heard of cases where women remain in abusive relationships?  Often the testimony of the woman is, “he still loves me”, “how can you tell when he beats you up?”, “because we have sex together”. Here is seen the stark difference between men and women’s approach to love.  The woman, contrary to the evidence, believes that as her man has sex with her he cares. The woman gives her body away as an act of love, whereas the man takes her body for careless self-gratification.  “A man can have sex with someone he really doesn’t like, take pleasure from the experience and back coming back.”

Now there are many women who know, usually at the cost of their purity and considerable heartache, that men can have sex with no sense of love, care or compassion.  The women have learned that they can use sex as a means for securing commitment and control.  Meeting the man who meets her standard of attractiveness, she gets to know him, perhaps for a few weeks or maybe just days, before moving to the stage of giving her body so securing a commitment.  Now that she has given up her body to him they can be seen to be, ‘in a relationship’.  This arrangement comes with social expectations of degrees of loyalty, honesty, faithfulness and commitment.

To the man who, as we have seen, simply wants to satisfy his inward carnal desires this is a great deal.  The woman has given her body away on the cheap and it has cost him little more than displays of affection, compliance and patience, a little generosity, and perhaps rent.  There is no commitment, binding promise of faithfulness or any other critical aspect of selfless, kind and caring love.  The woman has traded her body for affection, attention and control.  She will be ditched like a used rag when the moment is right.

In the subconscious mind of the man the woman has unenviable status of ‘prostitute’.  Are you still unconvinced?  Let me remind you of the characteristics of authentic love:  Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude; it does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all thing, endures all things.  Love never ends.   If you want to test the truth of my submission tell your boyfriend you won’t be having sex with him until the day you are married and see the genuineness of his love for you evaporate!

Woman do not give your body away in the hope that love might follow, history is littered with the carcasses of broken relationships, and abandoned children as evidence to the truth of these words.  Co-habiting relationships repeatedly fail.  Did you know that those who live together prior to getting married have a greater chance of divorce?  If you have fallen out of love or drifted apart then I am afraid there was no love, the love you ‘felt’ was fabricated.

In the vanguard of a generation of broken relationships is the evolutionary claim that we are nothing but turbo charged apes.  The cultural mandate feeds off these nonsenses and claims that sex can be used as a means of satisfying your felt needs.  If that were true, if we were nothing but animals, then would rape victims suffer as they do?  Rape is a devastating experience for both sexes but none more so than women.  The effect is profound.  The violation is so much more than physical, it is spiritual and it’s the spiritual that endures.  Do not your experiences, the world around you and the countless victims bear witness to these truths?  If you are having sex outside of marriage you are storing up troubles, pain and heartache – for loves sake, for your sake, please stop and save your body for your spouse.

Marriage is the safe place for sex to be enjoyed, why else do you suppose the homosexual lobby is so keen to have marriage redefined?  They see, along with society, that the marriage covenant brings with it protection, provision and love that no other arrangement can.  Marriage brings a man and woman together with their unique differences and unites them equally.  With a lifelong promise the man and woman are bound together liberating the women to give her body to the man and expect nothing in return.  Her interest is in seeing her husband satisfied because her need for love, protection, provision, respect and dignity has been satisfied in his sworn commitment to her. The spiritual bond, that happens whenever people have sex is welcome in marriage because it strengthens his commitment to provide and protect.  These are the bonds of love that leaves monogamous marriage between a man and a woman as the safest and most viable fortress in which two people can be joined together as husband and wife until death as do part.

And that is the truth that will set you free.

How much do you suppose has been wasted by people joining gyms with intentions to get fit? I am sure if you examined the statistics that compare gym membership with an increase in health and fitness it would reveal an astonishing amount of waste.  What about those novel training contraptions that propose to help you lose your love handles?  How much money has been spent and the love handles remain?  It is apparent, the evidence throughout history points to the truth that mankind’s heart is deceiptful – all the time.

When I deliver business coaching classes I share some of my characteristics with the audience:

I suffer laziness leading to negligence.

I have personal problems that are a distraction.

My optimism fuels complacency.

My impatience encourages me to take shortcuts.

I have heard it said that the most difficult question in interview is, “what are your weaknesses?”.  I have also heard no end of nonsense in reply.  Type in the question to Google and read the lies, disembling, and excuses to explain your weaknesses.  Now you never have to struggle again for the answer is simple, “tell the truth”. Confess you can be lazy; some mornings you wake up and really can’t be bothered, you are distracted on occasion; I have a wife and kids/I am single; it’s not always plain sailing, I can be ridiculously optimistic in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary and sometimes my inclination to impatience spills over, leading to frustrations and shortcuts just to get the job finished.  Hello somebody!

If you are struggling to recognise these characterisics in yourself please refer above to evidence for the deceitful heart then check your reaction next time someone cuts you up in traffic.  Just in case your wondering about my sincerity remember this blog is a matter of public record for anyone who may wish to employ my skills and talents and I would encourage them to read it!  Life is short and the truth is far easier to remember than lies.

Just as gym memberships are purchased with intentions of getting fitter so business degrees are purchased, not without some academic endeavour, with the intention of being a successful businessman. Like the gym equipment the accumulation of business theories are of negligable worth.  There is no substitute for hard work and demonstrating the fruits of your labour.  Have you served well, have you been loyal, obedient and honest?  Has the organisation profited from your contributions culturally, relationally and on the bottom line?  isn’t this is a different narrative is from the conventional utlitarian dialogue?  You too can build a more honest, edifying and enjoyable interview around this kind of conversation that is far better than wrestling to find the right answer pleasing to the interviewer.

This leads me to the photo of the Queen meeting the man who is reputed to have approved the killing of a dearly loved cousin, who was a close friend of her husband.  Have you wondered if your monarch is an authentic Christian, one who has accepted the gift of repentance and forgiveness and knows Jesus Christ as Sovereign, the King of Kings? I think this picture helps.  The smile has the warmth of sincerity and it certainly displays forgiveness for the murder of Louise Mountbatten, his friends and family.  It reminds me that love is a commitment and an action before it is a feeling.  Now take that attitude into your chosen business environment and see your career flourish.