Francisca is on the left. She has one son and five daughters. The son was born in 1991 and her last child is ten. Nelly Ng’Asuban is in the midddle. She has a 7 years old daughter Gladys and a son Junior 3 and half year old son. Her mother is from Uganda and her father who has died is Tucana, her husband abandoned her some time back. She spends most of her working time singing praise songs to her Mighty God. On the right is Rose. She is younger, I haven’t really met Rose. They each earn around 5000 KES per month which is about 40 pounds.
When was the last time you heard maids singing praise songs about Jesus? Pretty amazing harmony. Anyhow I love the dichotomy between their lives and the piece I read from Real Buzz today all about waking up in bad moods. It shows what completely different lives we live in the West compared to these women.
It’s a culturally sensitive piece of journalism from the online magazine. It so neatly exposes the lies, deceit and counterfeit solutions that we have adopted. They are telling their readership what they want and like to hear, what sells the mag. Not many may heed the advice but they are comfortable with it. My aim is to make you uncomfortable, I want to tell you what you don’t want to hear, what you will intuitively reject because you, like many, reject the Truth. You see, you are already narked!
Real Buzz 10 unexpected things that put you in a bad mood
Ever woken up in a bad mood and not known why? You may be surprised by the cause. While many things contribute to putting us in a bad mood, there are steps you can take to eliminate some common causes. Here are 10 surprising things that can spoil your mood.
Real Buzz – Food intolerances are responsible for a wide range of physical conditions including nausea and abdominal pain, but they can also affect your mood, causing irritability, mood swings, lack of focus, aggression, nervousness or hyperactivity. If you suffer from regular mood swings, try keeping a food diary – noting what you eat as well as any changes in mood – to see if you can identify a link.
Comment – I agree, keep a food diary. However, a meal is a celebration. Every meal should be eaten in gratitude. As every shower in clean water, use of functioning sanitation system and opportunity to turn on the heating or air conditioning, ride on public transport or walk down the street in relevant safety should. Eat regularly, together, sit up straight, chew your food well and eat more vegetables than starch and more starch than protein. Count your blessings, no matter how few that’ll help with your dark moods.
Real Buzz – Your home decor
If you want to give your mood a boost, try changing your home decor as your surroundings can heavily influence your mood. While red can make some people feel irritable or hostile, yellow communicates happiness and blue aids relaxation, so try accessorising your home with colours that enhance your mood. Research has also suggested that hanging up soothing pictures — such as beautiful landscape paintings —can positively affect a person’s mood and reduce stress and anxiety.
Comment Maybe, but don’t borrow money on your credit card to do it. Good budgeting and home administration should be a higher priority. Yes it can be appropriate to decorate, and there can be fun and a sense of reward from doing so but nothing beats having your home well administered. If you are a husband and wife team who both work full time and expect that paying decorators will boost your moods think again. You probably live in a functional house that provides shelter to two independently spirited co-habitees in a dysfunctional marriage. The trouble is that the Bible teaches that the man should leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two should become one flesh Genesis 2:24. And if you read Proverbs 31:30 you learn about a wife of noble character who is worth more than rubies. The point is that a home needs investing in and nurturing. If you are both putting those energies and passions nurturing your workplace don’t be surprised if home doesn’t boost your mood.
Real Buzz – Getting promoted
While many of us dream of getting a promotion in work, the reality may not be as rosy as you think. A study by researchers at the University of Warwick has found that rather than improving quality of life for workers, following a job promotion employees suffered from increased mental strain and there was on average a 10 per cent decrease in people’s mental health.
Comment Being promoted is not the cause of depression. Being promoted beyond your level of competence, what I believe is called the Peter Principle, is probably a bit tiresome. However, if you are promoted to a level of responsibility commensurate with your ability that’s alright isn’t it? The motto at Sandhurst is Serve to Lead. If your motive when promoted is to serve then your purpose is fulfilled on the other hand you are beset by depression you are likely in the wrong job. Get out or get over it.
Real Buzz – Late nights
Many of us are aware that lack of sleep can contribute to a low mood; however, research suggests that when you go to sleep could be almost as important as how much sleep you get. According to a study published in Psychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences, night owls are almost three times as likely as early birds to experience severe symptoms of depression, so try getting some early nights to boost your mood.
Comment Since I introduced stricter earlier bedtimes my energy levels and immune system have been improved. Our enemy is TV and the internet, both time stealers of ill repute. Could that half an hour you give to just watch the News be better invested in sleep? Could you not learn what you need to know on the radio news the next morning over breakfast or even on the way to work from your neighbour on the train? Wow, now there’s a way to really cut bad moods, speak to your neighbour, he’s probably in a terrible mood and could do with a friendly chat. Let me suggest an introduction: “Excuse me Sire, I missed the news last night and this morning, did anything important or interesting happen please?”
Real Buzz – Nutrient deficiencies
While depression can be caused by a number of things, symptoms can be worsened or improved by your diet. Deficiencies in vitamin D, the B vitamins (particularly B6, B12 and folate) and omega-3 fatty acids can all lead to feelings of depression and anxiety. Try introducing more foods rich in these nutrients into your diet to see if symptoms improve.
Comment Leafy green vegetables, citrus fruits and plenty of pure, fresh clean water.
Real Buzz – Your friends You might think that spending time with your friends is a great mood booster; however, that could all depend on their mood. Research has found that emotions – both positive and negative – are contagious and easily passed from person to person, often without you being aware of it. Furthermore, you don’t even need to see your friends to catch their mood, as a study suggests that the emotions of Facebook users directly affect the emotions of their friends for up to three days.
Comment I can’t imagine anything more depressing than being around people who are constantly cheery, I get the distinct feeling they are hiding something. I worship a man who the Bible records was a man of tears, acquainted with sorrow who warned that life will be tough. By Real Buzz’s measure he’s not the kind of friend I should have! However, we are told to “rejoice with them that rejoice, and weep with them that weep.” Romans 12:15. Where are you going to go for wise counsel, the Bible that captures 3000 years of human history, from around 40 authors in 66 books or today’s internet?
Real Buzz – The Pill
A study by researchers from Monash University has found that women who take birth control pills are twice as likely to be depressed as those who don’t. For some, certain birth control pills can also lead to mood swings, increased anger and loss of libido. If you think that your mood has changed for the worse since you began taking the pill, visit your GP to discuss the alternatives.
Comment, close but no cigar. Symptom yes but not the cause. The cause is women giving your bodies away on the cheap instead of waiting to be a gift of mind and spirit to your husband and his body to be a gift to you (1 Corinthians 7:4). It’s having sex with someone who is not your husband that will eventually depress you. Men are warned not to sleep with prostitutes because when you have sex with someone it is a spiritual union (1 Corinthians 6:16). Why do you suppose rape victims are so traumatised??? If it was merely physical women would recover from rape as one would from a broken bone, but they don’t do they? Something to think about next time your boyfriend wants your body outside of a lifetime covenant.
Real Buzz – Smoking
We all know that smoking causes cancer, heart disease and premature ageing, but it is less well known that cigarettes can also affect your mental health. According to the results of a large study conducted by New Zealand researchers, people who smoke cigarettes may increase their risk of developing depression, and those who are addicted to nicotine may be more than twice as likely to have depressive symptoms than those who are not.
Comment What nonsense. Smoking is not the cause of depression. Quite the contrary. All our addictions are ways in which people medicate to treat their depression. Without addictions people would be profoundly depressed. For the psychiatrists they are likely addicted to their intellectual abilities and academic achievements, for the businessman their own initiative, the husband who spends too much time in private on the net its endorphins fired up by illicit images etc So keep on smoking. 10 out of 10 of us will die anyhow so don’t get depressed over the fact you smoke. You would be far better off investing your time thinking about what’s going to happen to your soul when that death time arrives. It’s coming sooner than you imagine.
Real Buzz – Sunlight Most of us have heard of seasonal affective disorder (SAD) caused by dark winter days, but did you know that sunlight can also bring on the blues? While summer SAD is thought to affect less than one per cent of the population (compared to the five per cent affected by the winter version) it can be a serious condition for those it affects, bringing on insomnia, decreased appetite and depression.
Comment They really are scraping the barrel on this one. Enjoy the sun, remember getting burnt is just stupid.
Real Buzz – Your bedside lamp
If you regularly fall asleep reading or watching TV, this can have repercussions on your mood the next day. Research has shown that night time light can suppress the production of melatonin; a mood-regulating hormone which is only produced during darkness. So, try investing in some heavy curtains and make sure you turn off all lights at night to give yourself a happiness boost.
Comment I agree and refer you to the comment above about time stealers. If you want to avoid waking in a dark mood know this, that there is no darkness in light. Did you know that there is no such thing as dark? Dark is simply an absence of light, a bit like there is no such thing as cold, it is just an absence of warmth. Jesus said that he was the light of the world,’ ..whoever follows me will not walk in darkness’ (John 8:12). With him there is no darkness. No matter how dark the world becomes, your pains, sorrows, and hardships you can be in communion with the light of the world. That’s the good news.
Love that does not correct and rebuke is not love.